Turning 30: A Reflection

“Right ?!! Like thank you for the lessons but BYE HOE” 😂

~ Connie Vilomar

As a friend of mine so poignantly stated, I’m excited and absolutely ready to join the 30 club; lay the 20s to rest and really begin living. I feel that the 20s are all about learning about yourself and making mistakes and a lot of trial and error in all different aspects of your life. I have some incredible, unforgettable experiences that I will cherish and hold dear for the rest of my life. Those include graduating college with 2 majors and a minor, studying abroad in Mexico, living in El Salvador for 2 years, waking up on top of a volcano for my 25th birthday, hiking Acatenango (another volcano) not only once, but three times, becoming a flight attendant, traveling to cities near and far, and meeting the man of my dreams, to name a few. 

With all of those glorious moments come the hardships; barely affording my last semester of college, my best friend being diagnosed with stage 4 cancer (she is a ninja and fought hard and is doing well), losing my beloved Papa to cancer, living with bizarre and two-faced roommates, struggling with student loan debt, moving on average every 2 years, a fair share of heartbreak and misguided decisions, and discovering how difficult it is to stay in touch with friends. 

Struggles and all, I am extraordinarily grateful for my life thus far, and I’m proud of who I’ve become. Without the difficulties and road blocks, I wouldn’t have gained resiliency in the face of challenges, I wouldn’t have discovered how precious time really is and that it is not to be taken for granted, and without a few failed romances, I wouldn’t know what to look for in a partner. Though I’ve learned from my 20s, there is still room for improvement. And I plan on making those adjustments and continue to strive to be the best version of me, while enjoying everything life has to offer.

In the years ahead, I will run a marathon, begin an online business, build passive income, get married, have healthy children, and will be debt free. 

“Those are lofty goals,” you may say. However, lofty or not, if they go unwritten, unspoken, and un-affirmed, they are guaranteed not happen. The biggest secret to living the life you want is to affirm it each and every day. The universe will conspire to help you achieve your wildest dreams, but here’s the caveat: you need to be willing to put in the work on your end; mentally, physically, and spiritually.

I am here, I am present, I am grateful, I am ready. Bring it on! Amelia 3.0 with upgrades now ready to launch, August 20th at 4:44AM. Watch out world, here I come!